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as  the  tradition demands  the  bride  is  given away , she  is  expected  to  spend  all her  life  with her  husband , the  son in law  is  regarded  as  an honoured  guest , treated  with  lots  of  love  and  care  because  the  headache  of the  parents  of  the  bride  is  transfered  for  life   to  his  head  , he  must  be  respected  for  that  burden