from previous-

-he  was  then  turning  eighteen plus  and  the  grand  dad  decided  they  both  should  get  engaged,  nobody  was  in a hurry  they  should  marry, but  he  was  not  interested  in her  , mother  was  so  emotional  and  liked  the  orphaned  girl,   they  were  betrothed  without  much  ado, he  tried  to  refuse   but  he  was  not  heard, elders  felt  light  hearted  as  if  a  great  burden  on them  was  shifted  , marriage  will take  place  later  , some  ten years  later  but  the  girl  was  secure