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....appa would ask  if she had given  shaman his feeder such little   things  made ger  even more  irritable  but she  tried  to calm herself  while answering  sge had but without  asking  appa  , if on phone  she  had taken permission  would  have  been  better , argued the women , wife said  she didn't  want  to  disturb  appa  

Appa  decided  what  was going to be on the  dinner table  , what all dishes and how many  and followed by which dessert  for instance  mutton  biryani  and sweet semolina milk   pudding